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MARION — A new family was the center of attention at the Marion County Board of Commissioners meeting Thursday.

The family was to grow with the adoption of four Marion County foster children that would be concluded later in the day.

An emotional Candice thanked Marion County Children Services and commissioners for making their dreams come true through the adoption process that started three years ago.

“I can say for myself and my husband that this is one of the most special days that we are ever going to experience,” she said. “Since the kids came into our life 7 1/2 months ago … we hit the ground running.”

“And we’re still going,” said her husband, John.

“They want to be with us, so we want to have them,” his wife said.

Children services employees attended the meeting to accept a proclamation observing Marion County’s participation in National Adoption Awareness Month in November.

There are more than 3,000 children in Ohio in the foster system,

Cheryl Bowers, placement supervisor, said nine children have been adopted from foster homes in Marion County this year, and five more are in line to be adopted. There are 32 foster-family homes in Marion County.

There are many things that go into making a family, Bowers said. “So, you don’t have to be a perfect parent, but you do need to offer commitment and love to make that “forever family” each child deserves.

The crowd applauded as the family – with the four children in attendance – was recognized.

“It’s going to make a big difference in a lot of people’s lives what you are going to do here,” Commissioner Dan Russell said as he looked toward the children, ages 4, 5, 8 and 9.

 

Written by James Steven, Assistant Editor
Marion Star

(Edited by MCCS)

Very few people believe that someone they love or trust could ever hurt their child. But it happens. In 2009, a study, published in the August issue of Pediatrics found that 83% of beating/shaking injuries causing the death of a child were at the hands of mother’s partner. Far too often a child is abused or even killed when left in the care of a parent’s partner, which is why Marion County Children Services is launching a new campaign urging parents to get to know a person before they let them around their children.

The Choose Your Partner Carefully campaign is developed to create awareness of the risk children face when a non-related caregiver is entrusted with their care. Many non-biological partners have no relationship or commitment to the child. They are primarily interested in their own romantic involvement with the parent and become irritated when problems with the child arise. According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, the common circumstances for a child’s death are the child being at home, being alone with the mother’s partner, and crying. It is imperative that parents realize that when they choose a partner for themselves, they are choosing one for their child too!

Informational brochures are being distributed throughout the community that provide a self assessment tool to help parents better evaluate the likelihood that their partner could become a perpetrator of abuse, as well as educate them on community resources.

The most prevalent family conditions identified during the 2010 child abuse or neglect investigations completed by Marion County Children Services were economic problems and single head of household. Many of these parents lack childcare but need to work in order to make ends meet. Instead of seeking a qualified childcare center or person to care for their child, parents are leaving them with their partners. Not only do the partners often times have no relationship with the child; they have even less patience and maturity than the parent.

Sometimes, when we are in love, we can miss the warning signs. The following are a few questions parents should ask themselves about their partner before allowing them to be around their child.

Does your partner:

• Show anger or impatience when your child cries or has a tantrum?
• Call your child bad names or put him down?
• Think it is funny to scare your child?
• Make all decisions for you and your child?
• Tell you that you are a bad parent or that you should not have your kids?
• Pretend that when he/she hurts your child that you are to blame or that it’s no big deal?
• Tell you that your child is a nuisance?
• Have a criminal history?
• Abuse drugs, alcohol or prescription medication?
• Get violent or controlling with you?

If you answered yes to even one of these questions, your child might be at risk. Parents should never leave their child with someone they don’t trust with their child’s life. Your child is counting on you to make the right decision!

The Choose Your Partner Campaign not only helps parents recognize potential warning signs of abuse but informs them about additional community resources for childcare that they may be unaware of such as the Marion County Job and Family Services at 740-387-8560 or Boys and Girls Club at 740-387-3462.

Parents are encouraged to contact Marion County Children Services to obtain more information about the campaign and/or referral to community resources.

If you or your organization is interested in participating with the campaign, please contact Terrie Robinson at 740-386-0452 and/or review our information tools on our website at www.marionkids.com.

One of the most difficult decisions every parent must make is to decide when to let their child stay home alone. Whether it is to run a quick errand or to cover an intermittent period of time between the end of the school day and parent’s work day, it is essential to assure each child has the skills necessary to safely be home alone. Unfortunately, there is no magic answer. A combination of factors such as age, maturity, and knowledge of expectations and safety skills must be considered to assess each child’s readiness. As the school year is quickly coming to an end and summer fast approaching, we at Marion County Children Services would like to share some guidelines for parents who may be wrestling with this issue.

The Ohio Revised Code does not specify an age for leaving a child alone. The law does specify, however, that a parent cannot “violate a duty of care”. Proper and adequate supervision of a child is a “duty of care,” and regardless of a child’s age, parents will generally be the ones held accountable and liable if something were to happen or go wrong while the child is alone.

It is generally accepted that no child younger than eight should be left alone and no child younger than eleven should babysit, however, age is far from the only factor which should be considered. Parents must determine their child’s physical & mental ability to care for him or herself and ability to assess and respond appropriately to an emergency. The child’s maturity level, dependability, and ability to follow rules and make reasonable decisions are also key factors in the overall assessment of the child.

Deciding a child’s maturity level can be tricky. Actions, or inactions, can tell a lot. A responsible, mature person can carry out a duty and is accountable for his or her own behavior. Some characteristics and behaviors to look at when trying to determine a child’s maturity level are the abilities to think things through, reason and use logic; the ability to plan ahead; the ability to act independently and to say “No”; the ability to tell right from wrong; the ability to enforce rules if babysitting younger children; and the ability to recognize and respond to an emergency.

In addition to evaluating each child’s abilities, the circumstances necessitating each event in which a child is left home alone should also be given careful consideration. Questions to consider should include the following:

• How long will the child be left alone and at what time of day?
• How often will the child be expected to care for himself or others?
• How easily can the parent be reached by telephone?
• How close is the child to a trusted adult who can help in an emergency?
• Is the home free of hazards?
• How safe is the neighborhood?
• Is the child expected to babysit younger siblings or prepare a meal?

Parents must also assure their child has the ability to respond appropriately in the event of an emergency. The US Department of Health and Human Services urges parents to consider having a safety plan which your child can follow. In addition, it encourages gathering an understanding of your child’s basic first aid knowledge. The American Red Cross Marion County Chapter offers a Babysitter’s Training Class to youth 11-15 years of age. Course instruction focuses around basic infant care and needs of school age children in addition to assisting students in identifying common safety hazards and learning first aid basics. The class also addresses common problems and conflicts experienced when supervising other children.

When parents assess their child is not ready to stay at home, there are safe childcare alternatives in the community. The Boys and Girls Club of Marion in partnership with the YMCA offers a summer program designed for school age children. This program is held for ten weeks and is packed with education and fun in a safe environment. In addition, the YMCA offers many summer camps which not only focuses on sports instruction but also provides an emphasis on teamwork and building leadership skills for those who participate.

Should you feel your child is prepared and ready to be left home alone, MCCS provides the following tips for parents:

(Child Welfare Information Gateway, 2007)

• Have a trial period. Initially, leave your child for short periods of time to allow him or her to get used to being alone while remaining close to home. Gradually lengthen the amount of time as your child grows in confidence. This is a good way to gauge how your child will do.
• Role Play. Talk to your child about things that could go wrong and brainstorm possible solutions (what if the key is lost, the dog gets loose, the doorbell rings, a friend wants to come over). Discuss the best ways to handle each situation.
• Establish rules. Do not allow your child to go out of the house or to someone’s home without your permission. Make sure that your child knows the safety basics (to not answer the door, how to answer the telephone, where to go if locked out). Create a daily schedule or list of chores so your child remains busy.
• Check in. Telephone your child or have your child telephone you periodically to check in. If you are not available, have another trusted individual check in on your child.
• Talk about it. Continue to monitor the situation. Do not assume everything is all right because you haven’t heard differently. Talk with your child often about being home alone and address any worries or fears he or she might have.
• Don’t overdo it. Even children capable and ready to stay home alone shouldn’t be home alone too long or frequent. Keep your child engaged in other activities such as those offered by the YMCA, local recreational center, churches or other community organizations.

Although deciding if a child is ready to be left alone can be a very difficult decision for parents, it can also be very rewarding. When children have the knowledge, maturity, and skills to stay home alone, it can be a positive growth opportunity for children to gain confidence in their own skills to become more independent, resourceful, and responsible individuals. For additional information and helpful links to the Red Cross Marion Chapter, Boys & Girls Club, and local YMCA, visit the Marion County Children Services website at www.marionkids.com.

Article written by: Anna Tinnerello, Intake/Investigation Supervisor, MCCS

On behalf of the foster children, foster families, kinship families, and staff of Marion County Children Services, we would like to thank Zoomers Skate Club for their generous donation for our Foster Care Month Celebration.

Zoomers donated their facility and skate rental for our foster and kinship families. This gift allowed the families an opportunity to have fun and the agency an opportunity to thank them for the tireless job they do caring for children.

Through your generosity, you are also assisting us in carrying out our mission of ensuring safe children, strong families and supportive communities.

With our sincere appreciation,
The Staff of Marion County Children Services

All children deserve a safe, happy life – including the nearly 500,000 American youth in foster care. Young people in foster care especially need nurturing adults on their side because their own families are in crisis and unable to care for them.

Each May, we salute the compassionate people who make a difference by serving as foster parents, relative caregivers, mentors, advocates, social workers, and volunteers. Thanks to these unsung heroes, many formerly abused or neglected children and teens will either safely reunite with their parents, be cared for by relatives, or be adopted by loving families.

But some children in foster care are less fortunate. Most communities across the country are urgently seeking more everyday people to help these youth overcome their troubled childhoods and realize their full potential. No matter what their age, every young person in foster care benefits from a meaningful connection to a caring adult who becomes a supportive and lasting presence in his or her life.

The number and diversity of people who were once in foster care might surprise you. In fact, there are an estimated 12 million foster care alumni in the U.S. representing all walks of life. Behind this startling statistic are countless stories of children who grew up to be thriving adults while others struggled with life’s challenges all alone. The difference between triumph and tragedy is very clear. Success stories come about when someone takes the time to offer comfort, provide support, give advice, or simply share a milestone moment with a youngster enduring a difficult family situation.

In Marion County there are 102 children in out-of-home care. 45 of these children are in agency custody and placed in foster care or treatment facilities, while the other 57 are in kinship care placements with family members or friends.

As part of the Foster Care Month celebration, the Marion County Commissioners proclaimed May as National Foster Care Month during their meeting on Tuesday, May 03, 2011. Placement Services Supervisor, Cheryl Cobb spoke briefly, explaining the important job that foster parents do each and every day. Expressing that “they are exceptional people doing extraordinary work with children.” Cobb then introduced an unsung hero, a licensed foster parent with Marion County, Melissa Harrison. Harrison thanked the Commissioners for the proclamation and the agency for their support before she shared her experience as a foster parent. She shared how rewarding the experience can be and encouraged others to consider the challenge as well.

This month we would like to recognize and thank the numerous kinship providers and the 33 licensed foster families in Marion County and encourage others to consider doing the same, because the foster care “system” is only as good as those who choose to be part of it.

No matter how much time you have to give, you have the power to do something positive that will “Change a Lifetime” for a young person in foster care. For more information on how you can help, please visit www.marionkids.com or call Marion County Children Services at 740-389-2317 today.

Article written by: Terrie Robinson, Placement Services Coordinator, MCCS